Had felt horrible abt the gang rape
case…had cried(it might not be the ans to the issue but tears just could not
stop)..was shocked when some said that these cases are pretty common. What is
so special about this one..it just shows that we r not bothered about it and
used to it..our mind recognizes it as bad news and moves on..shocking but
true..
I thought of writing abt my own experience
to help someone to gather courage and Speak UP..It takes courage to do it. atleast
talk about it..
I had just cleared tenth standard
exam. I had always been surrounded by good men. And I always travelled with
friends or relatives ..never alone..i still remember the day, time and place.
It was 7 in the evening and I was coming back from dadar…I took an auto and
reached the station…I had to cross the flower market to reach station..The
lanes were small there was hardly any light. My innocent mind did not allow me
to think that someone may actually was trying to touch me..I assumed it was
bcoz of crowd. Being a girl the sixth sense helped me but the space did not
allow me to move an inch.. I somehow could speak up or even look at the guy..i
was the only girl there surrounded by guys…I just ran as fast as possible..but
it did nt end there I was travelling by train for the first time..did not know
where to go and was confused. Could not ask for directions.. coz I did nt want
to give the guy the impression that I was lost and scared… somehow read all the
indicators and saw my train reaching the platform..as I was walking down ,the
guy again tried to come close..that time, the very moment I was furious and
just pushed him far away..i never knew I could do it..
I got in the train and started
crying..i was happy that I resisted..i might not have something outrageous…but
did something about it..thought of telling someone about it..but the place was
just nt right to ask for help…
What was the reason to put it on
paper something personal..it is just that these things do happen and nobody
talks about it..i had heard some of my friends say that when they have been
teased, they should have spoken up..feel bad about it later..We have been
always told to suppress out thoughts and ignore it.. the lamest excuse is we
cant change it…I agree we cant change the mindset in one day..but the other
person should know that this behavior is absolutely not accepted and just get
lost..
2012- so many years have passed after
the incident, but I still get the shiver after I speak up.. I was travelling
with my friend to sangli..and the bus had an accident and we had to change the
bus..The new bus was already reserved by some people..( potla rakha matlab
jagah mera)..this reservation system was used..Had to resist it..and to my
surprise nt a single person in the bus took my side. Here I was fighting alone
with a guy for almost half an hour…the guy was pretty furious…but I was strong
on my grounds..The guy gave me ugly look and sat next to driver. It was getting
dark..i was getting scared… my mind was constantly focusing on the guy, what he
must be thinking..will he take revenge…
The incident might be small as
nothing happened..but it just made me stronger…
I just hope that whenever u c someone
being teased or molested…Do SPEAK UP..It can small thing..being supportive
helps..maybe it can save someone’s life..
